People often speak about thoughts and stress, everytime you are upset and you are stressed, it is the thought that creates the stress more than the situation. There is a beautiful story which I heard in one of the spiritual gurus talks. The story goes like this..Once Buddha was preaching his monks.A thief who was passing by listened to that sitting under a tree. Like wise a prostitute also passed by and she also started listening to the conversation.Buddha started preaching about about so many things and finally he ended up his speech by saying,"Do your duty before you go to bed".So everyone heard Buddha's advice. The thief got up in deep consolation that Buddha has endorsed his duty.The prostitute went away with the consolation that she can proceed doing her duty and now can catch rich customers. Finally the monks also got up and went their way by telling that their duty was to meditate.The thief interpreted in his own way and so the prostitute. In life we listen to what we want to listen.Very few people listen objectively.We are too lost in what we want to listen and in that space there is misunderstanding.Misunderstanding conflicts with reality.Thus it creates stress.Many of our tensions are result of wrong interpretations.
So lets be an objective listener and not an subjective listener and then we will find lots of tensions coming down.
"Seeing Yourself"-that is going beyond thoughts is the best way to handle stress.
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Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. ~Oscar Wilde,
ReplyDeleteThis is the thought that comes to my mind when i read this blog. We should believe in ourselves, judge the situation objectively and act. We are so accustomed to disguise our feelings in order to not hurt others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.
ya kavitha rightly said, thats why spiritual gurus says" Avoid toxic people".They are another stress factor because their thoughts, belief systems will permeate you..
ReplyDeletewe most often live other's lives than our own,we have been brought up to live to please others-parents,teachers,friends,life partners,in laws etc. amidst all this,where is the space to think,and think for ourselves and thinking objectively?
ReplyDeleteThose are things that need to be brought in us from childhood,where we need to teach ourselves and children that life is not about pleasing others,but in doing the right things.we should not do things only for getting applauded or appreciated,but most often thats what we are taught in school.The societal norms need to be reconstructed,and a lot of change is needed.