Man's personality is very complex. In fact man has many personalities. There are layers and underneath these layers personality traits are hidden. You unfold them like the layers of an onion and see what personality traits can be found. However, generally you can divide the personality of man into two: the inner and the outer personality.
First the outer personality, it has several features: the clothes you are wearing, the language you speak, the company you of your friends, the life actions in which you are involved, the places where you move or live, your lifestyles, your habits and manners etc. These reflect your outer personality and to some extent drop clues for understanding the inner. The people know each other mostly on the basis of outer personality. And worldly minded people mostly form their opinion of others on this basis. If the outer personality is colourful, the impression and acceptability is quick. In today's world the people are very conscious about it and pay great attention to its maintenance.
Second the inner personality, in one word it refers to the mental life of a person. The mental life of a man is a very complicated phenomenon. It refers to the web of thoughts and feelings he is all the time engrossed. One person's inner personality is an enigma for another. Moreover, the inner personality is all the time in a state of flux--- changing every moment. It is in the process of making and breaking, developing through changing.
But it is never possible that the outer personality is detached from the inner personality. Sometimes it has a real link with the outer and sometimes not. In other words, it is a question of hiding or exposing your real self. A real personality is one which is a balance of the two. However, the fluctuation of some kind can not be avoided.
In the nutshell, two things make human personality whether outer or inner--- the environment and the exposure to the world and ofcourse hereditary factor.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Life is like a glass..... even a crack shows.Life is a process and not a product.Nothing is static, everything is flowing.We convert life in to a goal and not a journey.We should know to travel joyously and not postpone joy as an end product.
We say life is a struggle because our expectation says that without fulfilling our desires we are miserable.I think we have to drop this myth. In life there are things which we get easily and there are things which we get in a hard way. If we interpret the hard way as struggle and the struggle as pain then the hard way itself is pain. So we have to drop this interpretation.
Life is in the present and we are living a fast forward life for the future. Live in the present, plan for the future and learn from the past.Instead of planning we worry a lot.
Let our life not be a guess work, a speculation but a decision that we will be happy.
We say life is a struggle because our expectation says that without fulfilling our desires we are miserable.I think we have to drop this myth. In life there are things which we get easily and there are things which we get in a hard way. If we interpret the hard way as struggle and the struggle as pain then the hard way itself is pain. So we have to drop this interpretation.
Life is in the present and we are living a fast forward life for the future. Live in the present, plan for the future and learn from the past.Instead of planning we worry a lot.
Let our life not be a guess work, a speculation but a decision that we will be happy.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
TEARS
Dear all,
I would like to share an interesting info which I read n an magazine. we all have different opinion about "tears". ya very true, but just spend a couple of minutes in reading this my friends..I have tried to reproduce as much as possible.
"Tears at the right time and in the right place have such healing powers as to make them seem almost holy. If something is worth your love, it is worth your tears."
When you can say it, you say it. When you are not able to say it, it comes out as tears.
People say, “I don't know why I cried so much?” In fact, if you know why, you will not cry. It's only when an experience incapacitates the mind, it comes out as tears. If the mind can comprehend the emotion, then it won't come out as tears.
Holding back tears is painful, causing muscle tension and chest discomfort. Controlling tears makes you sick. The muscle tension required to put on a 'brave' face and to control your tears is responsible for much of your high blood pressure and coronary artery diseases. Tears that do not find expression through the eyes will cause some other organ to weep, which are the various diseases. Having a good cry is a cathartic experience, while suppressing tears create stress. It is typical for asthma sufferers to report that they do not often cry. And, after they learn to shed tears the frequency of their asthma attacks reduces.
Don't be afraid to cry. Never be ashamed of your tears. Expressing your tears is vital to mental and physical health. Teaching boys that men do not cry is lying to them about the importance of tears. Women of today, assuming masculine roles in the workplace, have also acquired a masculine style of inhibiting tears. As a result, they are now developing disease patterns similar to that of men's.
Tears confirm you are still capable of deep emotions. Tears reveal you are able to feel deeply. Tears simply mean you are still human. If something is worth your love, it is worth your tears.
I would like to share an interesting info which I read n an magazine. we all have different opinion about "tears". ya very true, but just spend a couple of minutes in reading this my friends..I have tried to reproduce as much as possible.
"Tears at the right time and in the right place have such healing powers as to make them seem almost holy. If something is worth your love, it is worth your tears."
When you can say it, you say it. When you are not able to say it, it comes out as tears.
People say, “I don't know why I cried so much?” In fact, if you know why, you will not cry. It's only when an experience incapacitates the mind, it comes out as tears. If the mind can comprehend the emotion, then it won't come out as tears.
Holding back tears is painful, causing muscle tension and chest discomfort. Controlling tears makes you sick. The muscle tension required to put on a 'brave' face and to control your tears is responsible for much of your high blood pressure and coronary artery diseases. Tears that do not find expression through the eyes will cause some other organ to weep, which are the various diseases. Having a good cry is a cathartic experience, while suppressing tears create stress. It is typical for asthma sufferers to report that they do not often cry. And, after they learn to shed tears the frequency of their asthma attacks reduces.
Don't be afraid to cry. Never be ashamed of your tears. Expressing your tears is vital to mental and physical health. Teaching boys that men do not cry is lying to them about the importance of tears. Women of today, assuming masculine roles in the workplace, have also acquired a masculine style of inhibiting tears. As a result, they are now developing disease patterns similar to that of men's.
Tears confirm you are still capable of deep emotions. Tears reveal you are able to feel deeply. Tears simply mean you are still human. If something is worth your love, it is worth your tears.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
To live by it is freedom
Today my friend asked me to take an personality quiz in the face book ,the results which came out was incidentally believable.Also the result of her's was very true.I got my results that I am very flexible,adapatable, spontaneous, outgoing, friendly etc etc...list s endless appreciation of the character.This made me compare my results with many of my friends and I started thinking about the way people lead their life in this world because it was 50-50 kinda results. I think every human being is unique and they have the right to stay that way, different from the world.
I guess all human being gets treated like a mouldable commodity.In a world that is filled with as many desires, as many ways, as many temperaments, as many choices ....as many people, we can never find peace and happiness, if we do not learn to know the differences positively.
The father prefers only salwars and his adolescent daughter prefers jeans and t-shirts.The father succeeds but loses the love of his daughter.The husband spends the lifetime to change the wife, instead of celebrating the differences he is able to see in her.In fact the whole family from husband to sister's in law to mother -in -law gets in to the ritual of converting the new girl in to what they call as "this is our family type".Again every human being has the right to stay in his/her own way.
In life, nothing repeats and what can be repeated has no life in it.It is not without a reason that everything in this creation is unique.Differences are the very spice of life.Celebrate the uniqueness in others and we will begin to cherish our own uniqueness and we will be able to see the difference in the world positively.
See this world of abundance with the positive vision of appreciating the differences. A whole new world will unfold and a new life will be awaiting...
I guess all human being gets treated like a mouldable commodity.In a world that is filled with as many desires, as many ways, as many temperaments, as many choices ....as many people, we can never find peace and happiness, if we do not learn to know the differences positively.
The father prefers only salwars and his adolescent daughter prefers jeans and t-shirts.The father succeeds but loses the love of his daughter.The husband spends the lifetime to change the wife, instead of celebrating the differences he is able to see in her.In fact the whole family from husband to sister's in law to mother -in -law gets in to the ritual of converting the new girl in to what they call as "this is our family type".Again every human being has the right to stay in his/her own way.
In life, nothing repeats and what can be repeated has no life in it.It is not without a reason that everything in this creation is unique.Differences are the very spice of life.Celebrate the uniqueness in others and we will begin to cherish our own uniqueness and we will be able to see the difference in the world positively.
See this world of abundance with the positive vision of appreciating the differences. A whole new world will unfold and a new life will be awaiting...
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Lost in life
This topic is not about attitude and not about paradigms, but it made me think so much when I happen to see many people who are so lost in life without understanding what it is.Man has trained dolphins to perform antics, elephants to cycle and tigers to jump through rings of fire. Man has established his supremacy over every other life form.
Yet in our daily life, we meet people with Masters in Management who cannot manage their own habits; Chartered Accountants unable to live the life that they envisioned: Doctors doing the things that they know are harmful to their own body; Teachers unable to provide direction to their own children. The list goes on…. Why is it so? Why do people even after achieving phenomenal success still seem so lost in life?
I think We need Self-knowledge, Self-understanding, Self-mastery to overcome this aspect.
Man alone can nurture his own nature. Everything about life is born to a nature, lives within its nature and dies to that nature. Even at the time of cavemen, a beehive was an engineering marvel and so it remains even today. Nothing about the bee or the beehive has changed, but where is today's man compared to that caveman?
I think its high time we have to develop and nurture our quality of thoughts , from chaotic thinking to clarity thinking, We have to be the master of our own emotions.
We need to have a transformation from a life of 'either this or that' to a life of 'this AND that'… a balance… in the life and thereby start living in a more positive way without being lost in life .
Enliven the spiritual, emotional,intellectual , mental and physical personalities of your life.
Yet in our daily life, we meet people with Masters in Management who cannot manage their own habits; Chartered Accountants unable to live the life that they envisioned: Doctors doing the things that they know are harmful to their own body; Teachers unable to provide direction to their own children. The list goes on…. Why is it so? Why do people even after achieving phenomenal success still seem so lost in life?
I think We need Self-knowledge, Self-understanding, Self-mastery to overcome this aspect.
Man alone can nurture his own nature. Everything about life is born to a nature, lives within its nature and dies to that nature. Even at the time of cavemen, a beehive was an engineering marvel and so it remains even today. Nothing about the bee or the beehive has changed, but where is today's man compared to that caveman?
I think its high time we have to develop and nurture our quality of thoughts , from chaotic thinking to clarity thinking, We have to be the master of our own emotions.
We need to have a transformation from a life of 'either this or that' to a life of 'this AND that'… a balance… in the life and thereby start living in a more positive way without being lost in life .
Enliven the spiritual, emotional,intellectual , mental and physical personalities of your life.
Thursday, July 30, 2009
power of acceptance in life!!!!
A person with a happy mind is such that , if you put him in hell, he will convert it in to heaven.The person has a great secret in transforming everything in to joy,like how doctors transform snake poison in to medicine.We all want to be happy and run after this or that.We go on creating problems as the mind is not happy with what is.When we dont watch our mind a negative system is created and when we dwell on the negative, our pattern of anger, our pattern of justifying, our pattern of jealousy etc creates a negative system.This negative system takes over and we lose control of ourself.
To my knowledge I think life is not frustrating, the mind that is filled with expectations is frustrating.Mind is hijacked by expectations.The problem with us is that we want the world, God and nature to follow the time table that we have set.We want the world to run according to our likes and dislikes.More than all these we are prone to comparisons.We develop feelings of inferiority and superiority depending on whom we are looking at.
We have to take one thing for certain.Life is short.Why lose ourselves very early with wrong thinking.
LETS MAKE A CONSCIOUS , DELIBERATE DECISION TO STAY HAPPY UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES WITHOUT ANY SPECIFIC REASON.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Toughest job
My daughter who has recently stepped in to the pre teen stage started asking me questions about the recent trial of Kasab(the terrorist caught w.r to the recent terror attack), and it was rather a tough job for me to give her a convincing reply.
Raising a child is probably the most gratifying job any of us will ever have -- and one of the toughest. In large part, that's because times have changed. We live in an increasingly complex world that challenges us everyday with a wide range of disturbing issues that are difficult for children to understand and for adults to explain.
Senseless acts of violence involving children have become all too commonplace in our society: school shootings, child abductions, accidental drownings and kids killing kids.And with modern technology being what it is today, parents cannot realistically protect their youngsters from these broadcasts, especially with the media's endless reporting of these events.
Some adults want to keep their youngster's childhood a period of carefree innocence and avoid discussing these issues. But not talking to children about the violence they hear about--or actually see first-hand--denies them the opportunity to figure out what it means, especially in a society where extreme violence has become the norm.
It is important for parents to talk to their child about what the child has seen or heard in the media. This allows parents the opportunity to lessen the negative effects of the news while providing the youngster with parental ideas and values. While children cannot be completely protected from the reporting of violent news events, parents can help make them feel safer and less vulnerable to many problems in the world around them.
Let your kids know the difference between news and reality.I think it's important that as parents we let our kids know that the news and the world are very complex, and that greater perspective will come with age and continued communication. Anyways lets wait and watch wats n store for the future generation!!!!!!!!!!!
Raising a child is probably the most gratifying job any of us will ever have -- and one of the toughest. In large part, that's because times have changed. We live in an increasingly complex world that challenges us everyday with a wide range of disturbing issues that are difficult for children to understand and for adults to explain.
Senseless acts of violence involving children have become all too commonplace in our society: school shootings, child abductions, accidental drownings and kids killing kids.And with modern technology being what it is today, parents cannot realistically protect their youngsters from these broadcasts, especially with the media's endless reporting of these events.
Some adults want to keep their youngster's childhood a period of carefree innocence and avoid discussing these issues. But not talking to children about the violence they hear about--or actually see first-hand--denies them the opportunity to figure out what it means, especially in a society where extreme violence has become the norm.
It is important for parents to talk to their child about what the child has seen or heard in the media. This allows parents the opportunity to lessen the negative effects of the news while providing the youngster with parental ideas and values. While children cannot be completely protected from the reporting of violent news events, parents can help make them feel safer and less vulnerable to many problems in the world around them.
Let your kids know the difference between news and reality.I think it's important that as parents we let our kids know that the news and the world are very complex, and that greater perspective will come with age and continued communication. Anyways lets wait and watch wats n store for the future generation!!!!!!!!!!!
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